‘Caya’ is short for ‘Come as you are’; both a phrase that lies at the heart of psychotherapy and the title of a poignant Nirvana song.
The existential philosopher Søren Kierkegaard said that, ‘Becoming oneself is a movement one makes just where one is.’ In other words, before you can figure out who and how you want to be, you have to know where you are in your life first. This is often easier said than done because it involves confronting ourselves with an honesty that is scary and sometimes painful.
The lyrics of Nirvana’s ‘Come as You Are’ speak from this pain but Kurt Cobain delivers them with openness, vulnerability and acceptance of himself that points to how psychotherapy can help.
Psychotherapists help us to accept ourselves and be accepted by them just as we are, not as we’re told or we think we should be.
This hard won acceptance is at the heart of what Caya Therapy is about.